Kristi’s Freebirth Story of Baby#7

Fifth UP/UC, Third Son (Seventh Child) born on 01/07/2018!

Despite being our seventh babe, the pregnancy came as a surprise. Once the original shock wore off, we were so thankful for the newest babe growing in my womb. We shared the news with my oldest daughter first, who then wanted to tell her siblings through the game hangman. As they solved the puzzle, their faces lit up with excitement once they learned the news. Another babe was joining our family!

It was an uneventful pregnancy but I got quite big and it was more and more uncomfortable getting around. By the end of it, I had gained over 70lbs to my dismay. I took a poll asking friends to guess the reason for my extra large belly: lots of fluid? big baby? twins? haha

At 2:56pm on January 6th, I noticed a change in the contractions I’d already been having for a couple weeks. The intensity was changing and began taking my breath away and made it a little more difficult to talk or walk through. I watched them for an hour, asking my husband when he’d be home from work, and informing him that the contractions were 7-15mins apart and increasing in intensity. I made a guess based on history that he should be home in under 4 hours to be on the safe side and I’d let him know if anything changed that needed him to come home sooner.

Not much changed by the time he got home so we just hung out. I let my friend know that it might be the real thing and to keep her phone on. I went to lay down around 8 to see if the contractions would stop or wake me up when I laid down. Each one woke me every 7-15mins over the next hour. It wasn’t comfortable so I got up and went to sit with my husband in the living room. I decided to call my friend and let her know that she could come in about an hour or so but that it could still subside at any time. She came and we chatted between contractions until about 3am but while why were increasing in intensity, they were still 7-15mins apart. Since she lived close by, I suggested she get home and we get some sleep and I’ll call her when I think it’s time.

I went to bed and woke up with each contraction, still maintaining about 10mins apart and chose to get up around 6am as the contractions were too much for in bed. My husband also got up to help with the kids as I worked through the contractions and rested. My friend joined us around 10am or so and we enjoyed each other’s company between contractions. With each contraction, depending on where my husband was, I’d call to him and he’d sit with me as I breathed through it.

I would begin to question whether I was truly in labor, and then I’d have a strong and intense contraction and we’d all laugh that it obviously was. I noticed with a couple of the contractions that my body began bearing down so I was trying to decide where to ultimately labor and birth the baby. In the past, I’d ended up in the bathroom and that was where I stayed until baby was born, but I was a bit apprehensive of the intensity and wanted something a bit more comfortable. My husband brought our mattress into the living room and covered it with the shower curtain we had bought, to protect it. I climbed onto the bed and started out on all fours for several contractions and then turned around for a bit. As I labored in a sitting position, my water broke at 1:45pm. Lots of water kept coming and coming, so my friend helped my husband to get some towels underneath me.

I decided I wanted to be on all fours again and turned around. I labored there and more water kept coming. It was quite surprising just how much water there was, actually. haha I continued to labor and the intensity was too much for the strength I had left. My legs were shaky and I chose to turn around. I am unsure whether I regret this or just think it would have been easier if I just held out a little longer. I didn’t know at the time that baby was going to be born very soon.

I sat on my bottom and had my husband sit behind me so I could push off on him. With each contraction, now much closer together, I allowed my body to bear down as my husband reminded me to breath and follow my body. I could hear myself hollering and roaring with each push so between contractions, I looked to my 13yo daughter to remind her that I was okay and not to worry. Her and my 11yo daughter was present, awaiting the arrival of their youngest sibling.

I checked to see if I could feel the baby’s head and I felt it, all squished and coming down. I continued to bear down, and felt myself poo. I was thankful that I was covered in a blanket for my personal comfort of modesty. It was around this time that I could hear voices surrounding me and I realized someone was praying. I found great comfort in it and I was so thankful that I had my friend and her daughter along with my two daughters present. I continued to push and felt the baby descend, I could feel the baby’s head all squished as it crowned and asked my friend to check to make sure it was the head and not the bottom (though in hindsight, labor would have been more intense for my back and hips if that had been the case). She assured me it was the head and I relaxed despite the burning sensation.

I heard myself say to my husband that it was too hard and he encouraged me and reminded me of what I’m capable of. I began to roar again and pushed the baby’s head out. I was shocked how big his head was, as it was bigger than the size of the birth canal. I said the head was out and was facing down. I breathed and continued following my body’s lead and pushed the rest of the body out with another roar, feeling arms crossed at the chest. I breathed a sigh of relief for a moment before uncovering the baby from under the blanket at 2:20pm. I saw he was a boy, noticed poo up his back, then I saw his arms flop, and his face was purple.

I noted to my husband that he was purple and I needed a towel. I wiped his face, wiped his back, and rubbed his back and chest to encourage him to breath. Ready to take the next step, he made a little squeak and his color began to pink up, then he began to cry.

I looked up at that point to see everyone tearful. He was here. He was here after 24hrs of labor, all 11lbs of him with that 15″ head! I laid back with him and could feel all the work I had done and felt tired. Not long after, I delivered the placenta, thankful to find that I hadn’t torn at all. My husband then cut the cord, helped me wash up, and cleaned up from the birth, then helped me to bed so I could sleep and nurse the baby. I slept for the rest of the day and through the night as he took care of the rest of the kids.

Chelubai Theodore (whole hearted gift of God) has been nursing like a champ and is a sweet addition to the family. It’s as if he was here all along. Life has been pretty normal considering another person being added to our crew. The Lord knows good gifts and this boy is a great gift indeed.

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Cord Blood Banking

The quote below is from the site http://cells4life.com/cord-blood-banking-overview/legislation/ as it discusses the benefits of cord blood banking. I heard about this from another site and had to find it for myself because I wondered if it actually said this as they quoted it. So upon finding it, I wanted to share it here with you. This is an attempt at manipulating someone’s perception of what’s the best option; this is not informed consent.

“Storing your baby’s cord blood preserves a potentially life saving resource that would usually be thrown away…”

 

Usually is the key word.  It doesn’t let on that the majority of the people who are throwing away cord blood, are doing so because we’re told it’s not important or necessary to delay cord clamping so as to wait until it’s done pulsating. The cord is clamped by the majority of doctors as well as some midwives, almost as soon as the baby is born. However, there are great benefits in allowing the blood to go directly to the baby and to delay the clamping of the cord.

Instead, this quote suggests that storing the cord blood so it won’t be thrown out and wasted, indicates that storing it is the alternative to throwing it in the trash – but it’s not. Delayed cord clamping is. Also stated on the site is that “cord blood is a waste product” as it defends the ethical decision to donate the cord blood, but it further manipulates the reader to perceive the alternative is to store the blood, because it’s waste/trash. It should express however, the highly valuable benefits of allowing the baby that the cord blood belongs to, in receiving it all before clamping and cutting the cord… but the number of people who would donate their newborn baby’s blood if they knew would likely drop.

There is an alternative to throwing cord blood in the trash and naturally, it’s delayed cord clamping.  If someone is interested in cord blood banking, that option is there as well, but the alternative isn’t for it to be wasted.

<<Please see my other blog entries that go more in depth regarding the benefits of delayed cord clamping by clicking here.>>

Freebirth is Not Illegal

Freebirth is not illegal. It’s also not illegal to practice self-care and to only utilize the medical community when there is a need. Last I checked, it’s also not mandatory to seek a medical perspective for matters regarding health (aka well child check ups).

That being said, please spread the word so people stop reporting families to CPS for having a freebirth, for taking responsibility for their own health and the health of their children, and for seeking the assistance of a medically schooled individual only as a need arises.

Furthermore, just because you disagree with someone’s personal health choices, still doesn’t provide reason to report a family to CPS. If you’re truly concerned, take a minute to get to know the family yourself and IF there is further concern (true neglect, abuse, an unsanitary living situation according to the appropriate standards of that is considered unsafe) – and they are uninterested in learning better, healthier, and safer ways of caring for their family, then take further action. CPS is not to be the first call you make. It’s the lazy call – and it is devastating for families that are not doing anything illegal or harmful with their precious little ones.

My family dealt with CPS in 2013 and the fear alone of the power they have made my husband and I a mess for months despite our case being closed almost immediately – one social worker has the authority to determine if children are to be removed immediately and further investigation to be had… and not all social workers take action based on the appropriate standards.

I know women afraid to not take the advice of her doctor out of FEAR that they will report her to CPS. This is WRONG. Doctors are not gods! We are our children’s parents and it’s legal and SMART to get second and third opinions to determine our best options to care for our families.

Please consider this before picking up that phone and calling CPS. I’ve heard of more cases of CPS involvement where they shouldn’t have been than in cases where they should have been. All too often, I hear stories from people about how they should have been removed and no one did anything or the opposite, they were removed and the entire family dealt with trauma as they fought to prove their innocence and get their children back.

CPS can be a great asset to families in need and to hurting children. Let’s utilize them where they are needed, please, and stop harassing families that do things differently than you. Thank you!

Not a Mark of Failure

The article below is probably triggering for some but what I have to say is only stirred by the article, so don’t read the article if you don’t feel you can.

What stirred me is the first sentence in the article, “Midwives have dropped their decade-long campaign for ‘normal birth’, saying that it made women feel like failures.”

I find it so important that we as women are encouraged, and that we encourage other women, to trust our intuition and be educated. Then, we are in pursuit of a healthy and empowering birth that we are in control of. When we are educated and confident, reaching out for assistance is only part of that and not a mark of failure. We are intelligent, strong, loving, and powerful creatures! 

Ladies, you are precious, beautiful, amazing, capable, and strong. Pregnancy and birth is an incredible journey that marks bringing forth our children from our womb, and an awesome responsibility and gift to do so. Having a birth you desire, where you are safe and cared for, where you’re left loving yourself and knowing you did all you could is priceless. Transferring in an emergency, and seeking medical assistance to provide the care that is needed in any given moment, is a part of your success. You did what you were empowered to do and sought a helping hand to ensure you continued to be safe and cared for.

That is ONLY success. ♥

<<To read the article I’m referring to, entitled “Midwives Are Backing Down On Natural Childbirth”, click here>>

A New Venture

Heyyyy everyone!  Admin here!  I wanted to get everyone involved in this new project that’s been floating around in my mind for the last couple of years.  I would like to compile information to put into a book about free pregnancy and freebirth, as well as share my own personal experiences with it.  While it’s not necessarily original, I do feel it will be the first of its kind.  I don’t believe it will just be another unassisted childbirth book, I hope to add a dynamic that’s slightly different than what I’ve seen and I’m really excited about it!  I hope you’ll all be actively involved in sharing your thoughts with me as well!

So tell me: if you were to read a book about freebirth, what would you expect?  What information would you want to see in it, what would you like to learn, what questions would you want answered, etc.  Also, I’d like to include a section in the book to share encouraging freebirth stories as well as those with supportive doctors and midwives.  This book will be in complete support of freebirth and talk about safety measures to take, truths regarding medical interventions, as well as our ability as women to birth our babies as God intended.  That being said, it will not be a book that is anti-medical intervention/assistance where needed and necessary. So if you have some ideas, email me at kristiwhitten@ymail.com. Please take note that birth stories will be slightly edited for readability and grammar/punctuation but will otherwise be untouched. Also, if you want anonymity, please let me know. If you don’t specify, I will not remove names that are included.

If you’ve experienced birth trauma, I also want to hear from you!  What is a resource you wish you had access to that would have helped you cope?  What information do you wish you had that you feel would have helped prevent those experiences?  What do you wish doctors/midwives did differently and what information do you wish you were armed with in order to have a safe and successful birth that didn’t inflict the emotional (and perhaps physical) harm that you endured.  I believe these stories are just as helpful as the encouraging and successful freebirths because they help arm us with full disclosure and information we need to give us confidence, resolve, and determination in pursuing the birth we so personally desire.

It’s not going to be exhaustive, but I do want this book to be well-rounded and a great resource for those researching their options.  I want it to answer the questions of those interested in learning more as well as provide what many of us who have had one or more freebirths love so much from the support groups.  I want it to bring encouragement and empowerment and for it to be a useful and helpful tool in the shed of resources available out there for someone working toward building a healthy lifestyle and taking responsibility for the birth of their beloved babies.

Will you help me on this venture?  I hope you will! Please email me! Spam me with your ideas.  If you do not want me to quote you, please say so because if you share something great, I’m gonna quote you! hahaha!  If you’d rather help in some other way, sharing links or resources you have found along the way is also a huge help as I dive into further research to provide.  You could also help monetarily through donations towards the book or blog.  I pay a small annual fee to keep this blog running and clean/free of ads, as well as spend time moderating and researching, however I’ve done so out of passion and feel every penny and minute I’ve spent has been worth it to provide easy access to helpful information.  However, if you feel led to donate, you can do so through paypal.me/KristiWhitten.

Be sure to check back or sign up for notifications so you can order your own copy once it’s completed!  Thank you all for continued your support!  I’m really excited to get more resources out there and normalize freebirth as a safe and educated birthing option for those who desire to do so.